Loving When You Don’t Feel Like It
“Thou shall love the Lord thy God….” Are there times you just don’t feel like it? Does it ever seem to you that you just can’t work up an emotional thrill over loving God and your brothers and sisters? The occasional absence of this religious emotion causes confusion. It helps to find your way out of this dark shadow into the cheerful sunlight when you realize there are two kinds of love. One of feelings and one of the will. God never intended you to be a plaything of your emotions.
Just make sure your feelings are not caused by remoteness to God.
God loves you. If He had a refrigerator your picture would be on the door.
If God had a wallet your photo would be in it.
He sends you sunshine every morning and flowers every spring.
Whenever you want to talk, He’ll listen.
Having the right to live anywhere in the universe He has chosen to live in your heart.
Don’t forget that Christmas present He gave you or that special outing on Easter morning.
Face it! God is crazy about you.
He has drawn near to you. Won’t you draw near to Him?
The Lord said of Israel: “Their heart is far from me.” The words don’t refer to physical distance, but to likeness. It is not physical distance but dissimilarity that causes a sense of remoteness. Two creatures may be so close physically that they touch yet so unalike that they are far apart. Man and a gorilla are Exhibit A.
For this moral unlikeness the Bible uses the word, alienation. Look in your inner life for evidence of the dissimilarity. Things such as a wrong attitude, evil thoughts, or dispositional flaws.
Sir Edmond Hillery spoke about climbing Everest. He said, “You have to fix your mind before you leave the base camp because it has a tendency to wander in the rarified atmosphere of such heights.” Climb the Everest within you. Fix your will to love.
You can’t love God without loving people. We are exhorted to love our neighbor as we love ourselves. Don’t try loving your neighbor without loving God. Don’t profess you love God if you don’t love your neighbor. Don’t engage in an exercise of evasion by narrowly defining who your neighbor is. Don’t narrow the definition like the Pharisees tried to do. Pharisees considered only Pharisees as “neighbors.” Jesus explained away this approach:
“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you” (Matthew 5:43, 44).
Perhaps, like me, there are times you just don’t feel like that. It is then we have to superimpose our will on our feelings.
Overcoming Faith
“For whatever is born of God overcomes the world. And this is the victory that has overcome the world— our faith.” I John 5: 4
Jesus said, “In this world you will have tribulation, but be of good courage I have overcome the world.” John 16: 33
What a dreadful truth followed by an even more dynamic provision.
Because of His victory, we don’t work for victory; we work from victory.
Jesus realistically let us know we would have — opposition.
The Greek word for world is “kosmos” in this case meaning alienation from and opposition to God, all forces opposing new life in Jesus. Such is a summary for any and all opposing the believer. It is spiritual adversity in any form.
Faith overcomes the world. Such faith [faith or believe] does not merely mean to believe, but to trust, to confide in, to commit to, entrust with, and so forth; the very marrow of the meaning of faith is confidence in, reliance upon.
Faith enables believers to overcome by applying:
Reason teaches we are “overcomes.” This is a verb form speaking of a continuous victory in an unceasing struggle.
“Victory” is in a verb form which speaks of a single victory. The single victory was Jesus’ victory over the world. Because of that single victory, we have the potential of a continuous victory. Because of His victory, we are called “overcomers.”
We quote wonderful truths, BUT do we live according with the truth?
“If God be for us…” “I can do all things…”
Resources are twofold.
Birth is the basis for “whoever is born of God.” The birth factor gives us a new nature which has the capacity for combat with and conquest of the world.
Belief, “our faith,” is likewise a basis.
It is simply to take God at His word and act on it. Faith is not saying that what God says is true; it is acting on what God says because it is true. It is not believing in spite of evidence, but obeying in spite of consequence. We have the victory.
There is a story of a Civil War vet who spoke often of his friend Mr. Lincoln. Because of his injury, he was unable to hold a steady job. He was a virtual beggar who told stories about “Mr. Lincoln” for bed and food.
One day a skeptic said, “Prove you know Mr. Lincoln.”
He pulled out a piece of paper with pride to show them Mr. Lincoln’s signature. He couldn’t read; but when a spectator saw the paper, he exclaimed: “Do you know what you have here? You have a generous federal pension authorized by President Lincoln. You don’t have to walk around like a poor beggar. Mr. Lincoln has made you rich.”
Jesus has done the same for us. We don’t have to walk around defeated… Jesus has made us overcomers. That doesn’t immune us from worldly assault but it enables us to deal with and overcome them…. by faith.
Liberation From Your Limitations – Part Four
Exodus 14: 26 – 31
Fear is an enslaving emotion. It can even border on terrorizing. In reality it often proves itself to be a shadow not worthy of responding.
We all experience fear. It’s a normal emotion that keeps us safe from dangerous situations. However, a phobia isn’t just being startled and then going on with your day. It’s something bigger, a much more extreme fear. If your fear is abnormal it is often a good idea to seek God’s help through a professional counselor. Fear holds many persons captive. Jesus Christ who repetitiously said to His followers, “Fear not” wants to set you free from your enslaving fear.
The God who said to Abraham, “Fear” also comforted the lonely Isaac in the desert as he dug wells. The disturbed heart of Jacob was comforted by these words when his son Joseph was missing somewhere in Egypt. On the opposite bank of the sea the Lord through Moses comforted the people with the Word of God: “And Moses said unto the people, fear not, stand still and see the salvation of the Lord, which He will show you today.” Those two words “fear not” are part of your Christian inheritance.
The God who said, “Let there be light…” has said to you, His child, “fear not.” The God who is bigger than space and beyond time has spoken and He said “fear not.”
Repetitiously, in the Bible we are urged to live without fear. The Greek word for fear is “phobos”. When it appears with “a” before it, the translation is “without fear” or “fearless”. The Old English use of the “less” means minus.
Phobias are fears which have festered. They are numerous. A new one of which I just heard is “rackeybuteriaphobia.” It is the fear of getting peanut butter stuck to the roof of the mouth.
How is it best to deal with fear? Take these steps.
Admit it.
Identify it.
Analyze it.
Isolate it.
Address your fear head-on. Do this by:
Praying about it. Give it to God.
Search the Scriptures regarding it.
Talk to mature, understanding friends about it.
Saturate your mind with Bible promises about it.
Make direct application of Scripture to it.
Resolve to demonstrate faith in fighting it.
Envision the dead body of your fear on the seashore – dead.
It will help you do this if you realize what fear is. I John 4:18 identifies fear as the punishment for not trusting God. Faith is simply confidence in God’s character. When you have confidence in the character of the One who has said “fear not” you love Him and this casts fear out.
Join King David who said, “What time I am afraid I will trust the Lord.”
Liberation From Your Limitations – Part Three
Exodus 14: 26 – 31
“and Israel saw the Egyptians dead upon the seashore.”
Freed from Egyptian slavery the Israelites walked through the parted waters to freedom by God’s grace. The waters closed against the Egyptians and left their dead bodies on the shore. As they were miraculously set free from bondage you can be set free from habits that enslave you.
What bad habit do you desire to break? There is one you may not have recognized as a bad habit. It is greed. Of it the Scripture says: “He who loves silver will not be satisfied with silver; Nor he who loves abundance, with increase. This also is vanity” (Ecclesiastes 5:10).
Greed is a cruel master that subtly enslaves us, it holds us captive. It is a bondage that can be and needs to be broken.
Driven by greed we have little time for spiritual things. We have greed for possessions, prestige, and power. This governs our outlook, attitude, schedule, and commitment. It structures our priorities. Greed is an all-consuming sentry which forms a material wall in which to hold us captive from the freedom Jesus affords. Greed has nothing to do with how much you have but with your attitude toward it. It relates to what has you. Insecure people have what others approve of. A confident person isn’t dependent upon things or reliant upon persons. They are at peace with God and at ease with self. Take the greed test.
When you see a beautiful flower do you want to pick it?
When you hear a lovely bird do you want to cage it?
When you notice an attractive person do you want to possess them?
When you see what a friend has, do you always want one?
Are you basically discontent with what you have and jealous of what others have?
Reflect:
“He who is greedy for gain troubles his own house…” (Proverbs 15:27).
“But godliness with contentment is great gain” (I Tim. 6:6).
“Seek first the kingdom of God and all these things shall be added to you” (Matt. 6:33).
The byword of a greedy person is, “More is better, but more is never enough.”
If you are materialistic, admit it to God and ask His help in breaking the bond.
Question yourself regarding how greed expresses itself in your life. Set an example of greed related to some matter as a starting point. Take direct action in overcoming this one act. Once you have done so you have a new pattern of action.
Engage God in dealing with this enslaving out. “For with God nothing will be impossible” (Luke 1:37).
“For whatever is born of God overcomes the world. And this is the victory that has overcome the world—our faith” (I John 5:4).
Liberation From Your Limitations – Part Two
Exodus 14: 26 – 31
Sex is often a dominant slave master. When it becomes a mastering force driving one to be misused it needs to be addressed.
As the Israelites saw the dead bodies of their slave masters on the shore of the sea so you can see your sexual master.
Sex is a dominating force in America. Sex sells. Sexual promiscuity is enslaving of all ages. You can at this time leave the enslaving dead body of inordinate sex on the seashore.
American teenagers become pregnant, give birth, and have abortions at significantly higher rates than teens in other industrialized nations. A recent study conducted by the Alan Guttmacher Institute also shows that the U.S. is the only developed country where teenage pregnancy has increased in recent years.
The pregnancy rate for Americans ages 15 to 19 is 96 per thousand, compared with 45 in England, 44 in Canada, 43 in France, 35 in Sweden, and 24 per thousand in the Netherlands. The teenage abortion rate for the U.S. is as high as the combined rates for abortion and births in other countries studied.
It is not just teens who are promiscuous. Promiscuity has entered the epidemic stages among all ages. The Biblical view of sexual perversion is that it is sin. Scripture says “the wages of sin is death.” That reference is to spiritual death. However, physically taking the Bible’s view of sexual perversion as sin, it is now bringing forth one of the most insidious forms of physical death. It is a sexually transmitted disease. God is not mocked “whatever a person sows they will reap.” Don’t blame God. It is merely the law of the harvest as applied not to agriculture, but morals.
To tell a person engaged in sexual promiscuity that it is a matter of preference, or is psychological, or physical is to bind that person in hopelessness. To say it is sin and can be forgiven and overcome by the power of God is to offer hope.
Through Jesus Christ you can gain a victory over this slave master and see his dead body on the seashore. It is a struggle unto death. Either this tyrant dies or the Phillips translation of I Timothy 5:6 applies to you: he who “plunges into all the pleasures that the world can give is killing his own soul.”
“It is time to wake up to reality “…Let us therefore fling away the things that men do in the dark, let us arm ourselves for the fight of the day! Let us live cleanly, as in the daylight, not the ‘delights’ of getting drunk or playing with sex. Let us be Christ’s men from head to foot, and give no chances to the flesh to have its fling” (Romans 13: 11 – 14).
Doubtless you know the initial impulse that leads to your sexual sin. Turn from the first step that leads to immorality. By way of illustration: “If you are not going in the house stay off the porch.” Control the impulse or it will control you.
“No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it.” (I Corinthians 13: 10)