Anger Management, Part 1

“Be angry and sin not.” (Ephesians 4:26)

How can you do that, and why is anger forbidden?

First, not all anger is forbidden. The text specifically says “be angry.” It also says “sin not.”

There are some things it is wrong to be angry about and some it would be sin not to be angry about. Differentiating between them is the challenge. This is not a license to give vent to your pet peeves.

According to Scripture not all anger is wrong. Righteous anger should arise when we witness “an offense against God or His Word.” Righteous anger shows that we care about things that matter to God. It is the normal and natural response to certain things. It attacks the sin, not the sinner. 

Anger turns to wrath if not managed by God. It builds if there is no closure. 

Therefore, don’t let it fester. “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.” (Ephesians 4:31) Don’t hang on to your anger, but never forget what it taught you.

“But now you must also rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips.” (Colossians 3:8)

“Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end.”

“…because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.”   (Proverbs 29:11 and James 1:20)

“Whoever is patient has great understanding, but one who is quick-tempered displays folly.” (Proverbs 14:29) Speak when you are angry and that will be the best speech you will ever regret.

As a teen my mom wrote and gave me a Scripture I have kept until this day: “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” (Proverbs 15:1) That has been proven to be good counsel. Don’t respond to an angry person in anger, even if it is deserved, lest that one’s anger becomes your anger. Don’t carry a mirror around to reflect another’s anger.

Avoid the sinful anger that is indigenous in our culture, and instead make an amalgam of these texts in your mind and aspire to live in accordance with them.“Your word I have hidden in my heart, That I might not sin against You.” (Psalm 119:11)

Let Others See Jesus in You

Members of the church in Thessalonia were complimented as being “examples.” Another translation renders the word more exactly as “ensamples.” 

Ensample is a word that is more easily described than defined. Consider a plate of malleable wax. Make a fist and strike the wax. When the fist is removed, what is left is an ensample of the fist, a likeness of the fist.

That graphic depicts what an encounter of Jesus with us should result in, a likeness to Him. How distinct is His likeness in you?

We sing, or used to sing before contemporary music became the norm, “Let others see Jesus in you.” That is not just good music, it is an admirable lifestyle for a believer. 

There could be no better illustration of being an example than the fact that “Christ suffered for you, leaving you an example, that you should follow in his steps.” (1 Peter 2:21)

Albert Schweitzer, the French theologian, philosopher and physician said, “Example is not the main thing in influencing others – it is the only thing. More depends on our walk than on our talk, what we practice than what we profess, what we do than what we say.”

A tremendous amount of learning happens through this process of watching and imitating others. In psychology, this is known as observational learning. Keep in mind you are an observational teacher. People learn from your example. 

Most of our learning is visual. Eighty-nine percent of what people learn comes through visual stimulation; ten per cent through audible stimulation. 

“How To” videos on YouTube.com are much more popular than mere instructional text.

The first century was a visual learning culture that could easily understand the appeal to “… let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.” (Matthew 5:16)

We are instructed to “Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.” (Ephesians 5:1-2)

“In everything set them an example by doing what is good.”  (Titus 2:7)

None of this is to diminish the value of speaking truth. It is not an issue of either or, but both and. Vocal sharing fills in the blanks left in living the gospel. Therefore. “…whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him.” (Colossians 3:17)

Edgar Guest in his poem “Sermons We See” codifies the principle this way:

“I’d rather see a sermon than hear one any day; 
I’d rather one should walk with me than merely tell the way. 
The eye’s a better pupil and more willing than the ear, 
Fine counsel is confusing, but example’s always clear….”

Want to Be a Disciple?

Discipleship involved two principles. First, it meant that the disciples had fellowship with their teacher. They lived with him as Jesus’ disciples lived with Him. Second, the disciples carried on the tradition of their teacher. After he died they taught the same things that he did. Disciples were the main means of perpetuating teaching in the ancient world, since many great teachers wrote no books.

Receiving the truth should always accompany learning the truth. It is one thing to learn a truth, but quite another to receive it inwardly and make it a part of our inner person. Facts in the head are not enough; we must also have truths in the heart, then practice it. “Be doers of the Word and not hearers only.” (James 1:22)

This verb practice or “do” is the key word in James, for to hear truth and not to do it is to delude oneself.

Practice (prasso) refers to repetition or continuous action. Practice is a habit. The present imperative is used, thus commanding believers to continually practice these things as their normal way of life.

Our English word “practice” has a similar connotation. We speak of a doctor as having a practice, because his profession maintains a normal routine. Christians are to make it their practice to lead godly, obedient lives.

As far as we can know Mahatma Gandhi never became a Christian, but he made a statement that we who follow Jesus would do well to ponder. When asked to put his message into one short sentence, he replied “My life is my message.” He practiced what he believed, so must we.

The requirement is for you to trust God in all things. The result will be contentment. How many truly content people do you know? Would you describe yourself as a content person? If not, you can learn to be content.

It is as though our Lord is saying, “Show me your faith by resolving to learn from the things I allow in your life and I will give you contentment.”

“You will keep him in perfect peace, Whose mind is stayed on You, Because he trusts in You.”  (Isaiah 26:3)

This formula works: Trust = Perfect peace.

There is a counter reality: No trust = No peace.

Basically: No Jesus = No peace. The alternative is, Know Jesus = Know peace.

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” (Proverbs 3:5-6)

What Me Worry?

Remember the character Alfred E. Newman and his famous line, “What me worry?” Do you?

Has it ever occurred to you that worrying is the only sin about which we brag? Tag lines are: “I worried so much I couldn’t sleep,” and “I worried so much I couldn’t eat.”

Studies show the folly of worry. Some years ago a professor at a leading American university studied the things people worry about. His research showed: 

40% of things people worry about never happen

30% concerns the past

l7% are needless worries about health

l0% are about petty issues

8% are legitimate concerns

That means that 92% of our worry time is wasted energy. Scripture notes that we are not to ever worry about the 8%. Why is that? Because when we worry we’re really saying that God can’t take care of us, that our problems are bigger than His promises. R.H. Mounce once said, “Worry is practical atheism and an affront to God.” Rick Warren writes, “Worry is the warning light that God is not really first in my life at this particular moment because worry says that God is not big enough to handle my troubles.”

Worry is projecting negative thoughts on future events. It is pulling tomorrow’s clouds over today’s sunshine.

Years ago the late Georgia Senator Talmage told me, “Never climb a tree until you get to it.” It was his sage way of saying wait and deal with issues when it is time to deal with them.

There are two things about which a person should never worry, only two.

Never worry about something that needs changing, and you can’t change. Worry will not change it, so it is a waste of time to worry.

Second, never worry about anything that needs changing that you can change. Do it. Don’t waste time worrying about it and delay the accomplishment along with a sense of fulfillment.  

Some things need changing. Group them into one of these four categories: 

Things you can’t change.

Things someone else can change.

Things no one can change.

Things only God can change.

There is an antidote for worry called faith. Even it doesn’t work unless its object is worthy. Jesus said, “My peace I give unto you, not as the world gives….”

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.”  (Philippians 4:6-7)

Comply with that standard and then you will be able to say, “When anxiety was great within me, your consolation brought me joy.”  (Psalm 94:19)

A Work In Progress

Along a busy highway I saw a sign reading: WORK IN PROGRESS.

I thought, “that’s me!” That actually is us, all of us.

Have you stopped part way in your spiritual pilgrimage?  Don’t stop half-way. Let our Lord finish the work He began in you the moment of salvation. Let Him free you from spiritual enslavement.

To carry your salvation to its logical conclusion God is willing to help. “For it is God who works in you both to will and to do His good pleasure.” (Philippians 2: 13)

Pray for Him to reveal His will to you, knowing He will, once He sees in you the will to do it. Pray:

“Lord guide me, the sea is so big and my boat is so small.”

Often God guides through long and uncertain pathways. However, if we will follow, He will guide.

“It is God who works in you both to will and to do…”  The same Greek word is translated “works” and “to do.” It is ENERGEIN.  In it we can hear our word for energy. This word is only used in the New Testament as a reference to action of God. It is effective action because it is action of God. His actions are not to remain half-finished.

We of our will must be willing to say, “Thy will be done.”  When we do, it is done by His enabling grace.

Without your consenting help even the actions of God are not completed. 

He enlightens and empowers us. He reveals His will and He gives resources for doing it. Therefore, don’t argue with God: “Do all without murmuring and disputing” (Philippians 2:14).

Instead of arguing with God, work with the conviction that the promises of God are true.

That depicts our biggest problem as Christians. We evidence an unwillingness to give up control of our lives, to abandon them in faith to become Christ-like. We give the impression that our lives can’t be good unless we control them. Our trust of Christ must bring us to the point where we are willing to be poured out as a sacrifice knowing the future belongs to God.

Don’t downgrade your responsibility as some do.  Some believers see themselves as passive objects, such as clay or branches, forgetting the Bible also calls us ambassadors, soldiers, servants, watchmen, and children of God.

God works IN us so that we can work OUT what He does inside us. Christianity isn’t a matter of ups and downs, but ins and outs.

It all begins with a thought and ends with a destiny. When inspired and aware of His will, do it. Your destiny is at risk.